By Drew Adamek
I quit making New Year’s resolutions a long time ago. They had become a vicious cycle of failure and disappointment. Setting lofty, life-changing goals only to give up on them by January 15th made me feel like a loser who couldn’t stick to a couple of simple little tasks for more than a couple of days.
Problem is, I am a very sensitive young man. I take perceived failures badly and let them spiral me out of control. One misplaced comma and suddenly I can’t write for six weeks because I suck and I’ve always sucked and I am probably adopted and why did I bother to try because I can’t even use a fucking comma right (see what I mean).
Resolutions have always set me up to react poorly; if I am not thin within a couple of days, I suck; if I haven’t written a novel by January 12th, I suck; if I am not saving any money, I suck. Not meeting my goals makes me feel bad about myself, and feeling bad about myself makes it harder to meet my goals. I don’t put myself through that anymore because living with that kind of emotional self-abuse is not much fun.
But I had an epiphany a couple of days ago: What if I set goals I could absolutely accomplish with little or no effort? Would meeting my goals make me feel better about myself, leading to more goals being met? Would I gain self-confidence and self-respect if I actually met my New Years resolutions, thereby improving my ability to make a better life for myself?
I believe I would.
Therefore, I resolve to have really low expectations for my goals in 2011. I am setting the bar fucking looooooow this year. No more “healthier, more productive, happier” bullshit. I need the confidence boost of not asking that much of myself for a change. I need goals I can actually stick to – shit I was probably going to do anyway. Checking everything off my resolution list is going to give me the motivation to underachieve for another year.
I feel like a new man already – just saying that I’m slacking off makes me feel more accomplished and capable. Sure, I’m overweight and underemployed, but inertia and apathy are going to solve all of that this year for sure. Yes I can, dammit. I just know it.
Here, then, are my Low Expectations New Year’s Resolutions:
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Posted on January 10, 2011